Today’s letter – Help New Hampshire Avoid California’s Mistake

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

New Hampshire is on the verge of converting their year-old “Civil Union” structure into full and proper marriage. HB 436 only needs the Governor’s signature to become law.

Sound familiar? It should. That was the choice you were faced with in 2007 when you vetoed AB 43, the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Protection Act.

I wrote to Governor Lynch to point out that after you vetoed AB 43, I was sad that my friends would have to go to Massachusetts to get married instead of Disneyland; humiliated that my religious beliefs were made subservient to those of others; and outraged that my Governor thought he was more worthy of marriage than I.

I realize that you didn’t get through to Vermont Governor Jim Douglas in time to stop his veto, but could you give John Lynch a call (you can do that, right?) (try 603-271-2121 in case you don’t have it) and tell him why, as you said, you would have signed AB 43 if you were legally able.

It’s a chance to be cohesive instead of divisive.

Sincerely,

Letter to New Hampshire Governor John Lynch

Governor John Lynch
State House
25 Capitol Street
Concord, NH 03301

April 30, 2009

Dear Governor Lynch,

I live in California where our Governor was sent two same-sex marriage bills and vetoed them both.

  • It was painful to have my governor say that he is better at deciding who I can marry than I am.
  • It was sad to watch our friends go to Canada and Massachusetts to get married instead of Disneyland.
  • It was confusing to our children to have parents who weren’t married.
  • It was humiliating to have my religion and beliefs made subservient to others.

Please, before you make your decision on HB 436, talk to your wife and ask her about what the professionals in pediatrics agree: there is nothing wrong with gay marriage. Then imagine your life if you were Domestic Partnered instead of married.

Call Governor Schwarzenegger (you can do that, right?) and ask him if he regrets his veto: he has said he does.

And invoke the words of former Wisconsin Governor Lee Sherman Dreyfus who signed the first statewide gay rights law in the United States in 1982: “It is a fundamental tenet of the Republican Party that government ought not to intrude in the private lives of individuals where no state purpose is served, and there is nothing more private or intimate than who you live with and who you love.”

Yours,

P.S. I know you are a Democrat – act like one and sign this human rights bill!

Today’s letter – 100 days of hope

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

Today is President Obama’s 100th day in office.

As my mom keeps reminding me, Mr. Obama does not believe in same-sex marriage. Indeed, in his first 100 days, we do not have a hate crimes law, nor a fully inclusive Employment Non-Discrimination Act; gays are not allowed openly in the military, and I still pay $1243 more taxes a year without being able to share Medicare or social security with my husband.

What we do have is hope. Somebody who realizes that apartheid is wrong, no matter how popular it is. Somebody who goes on TV to heal and not divide. Somebody who is willing to pass civil rights legislation, and not veto it.

A leader like that is really rare, and you can see why he is so popular. Like Harvey Milk, he cuts through the bigotry and gets things done. I wish you would give Californians hope. Please help California turn away the Opponents of Equality. You can start by signing SB 572, the bill that would make May 22 Harvey Milk Day.

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – Doctors should not be able to choose between their faith and their job

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

In the “Gathering Storm” ad being aired by the National Organization for Marriage (“NOM”) there is a California doctor who testifies that she “has to choose between my faith and my job.”

I don’t want to live in a state where the doctor at the emergency room triages patients based on their beliefs; I don’t want to live in a state where my HMO sends patients to somebody who gives them second-class treatment because of their prejudices.

I don’t think the remedy is getting rid of same-sex marriage. Governor, could you please contact NOM to find out who that California doctor is, so she can be immediately removed from medical practice?

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – Iowa stubbornness or sensibility?

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

I could not let today pass without mentioning that the first same-sex marriages are taking place in Iowa!

Up until this decision, all I knew about Iowa I learned from The Music Man: “We’re so dog-gone stubborn we can stand and touch our noses for a week at a time and never see eye to eye. But what the heck, you’re welcome, join us at the picnic. (You can have your share of all the food you bring yourself.)”

I know how happy I was when I got married in California after 11 years as “domestic partners” – June 17, 2008. I hear stories from Massachusetts about how marriage liberated couple after couple in ways that domestic partnership did not, simply because people understand “marriage.” I remember the hurt when marriages were stopped in California, when the people of California said “no, you’re not welcome even to a share of the food you bring yourself.” And I remember the joy when New Hampshire, Vermont and Iowa joined Massachusetts in saying “freedom means freedom for everybody.”

I would have expected to be run out of Iowa on rails like Professor Harold Hill, but never out of California. I guess things have changed in the 21st century.

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – Just Domestic Partnered

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

As you probably know, Disneyland City Hall issues buttons for people to wear in the park for people celebrating events such as:

– first visit
– honorary citizen
– happy birthday
– happy anniversary
– just married

Do you agree with me that they ought to have “Just Domestic Partnered” buttons too?

I’m nobody, but if you were to write to them and suggest it, they might take the issue of equivalency more seriously. Their address is:

Disneyland Guest Relations
1313 Harbor Blvd
Anaheim, CA 92803

Many thanks in advance,

Today’s letter – Nobody Wants Domestic Partnerships

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

I’m curious to know why opposite-sex couples cannot get Domestic Partnerships in California until one or both is over age 62?

It seems to me that Family Code section 297 (b) (B) …” persons of opposite sexes may not constitute a domestic partnership unless one or both of the persons are over the age of 62” is in direct contradiction to several constitutional protected classes.

Is this because nobody has bothered to sue over this, or because nobody wants to get Domestic Partnered when they can get Married instead?

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – Arrest California

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

I have a civics question for you. Who is responsible for making sure that California follows its own laws?

The reason that I’m asking is because California seems to be breaking the law by issuing marriage licenses, and I can’t remember from high school who is supposed to fix that. As you know, The California Supreme Court ruled last June that we cannot issue marriage licenses to one group of people and not to another. And then Proposition 8 passed that said that we can’t issue marriage licenses to one group of people.

It seems to me that California ought to stop issuing marriage licenses to everybody – same-sex and opposite-sex couples alike. It is the only thing that is fair.

The people have said that Domestic Partnership is good enough, right? So who is supposed to get California to follow her laws?

Thank you in advance for your help,

Today’s letter – Miss California Represents Selfish Bigots

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

As you know, Miss California USA had a rough time over the weekend with the task of representing Californians as being welcoming tolerant folk. Yesterday morning, we found out that she has a sister, a second lieutenant in the Air Force, who is a gay rights activist,

Carrie Prejean told Billy Bush yesterday that, “No. She supports gay people, she supports gay marriage. My beliefs have nothing to do with my sister or my mom, or whatever.”

Like Pete Knight, who hated his son so much that he put together Proposition 22 to try to make it impossible for him to ever marry in this state, Miss California has her own opinions and doesn’t seem to care if they hurt her sister, her fellow Californians, or even me.

“No offense to anybody out there, but that’s how I was raised and that’s how I think it should be between a man and a woman. Thank you very much.”

I was similarly sad when Californians passed Proposition 8, and when you vetoed AB 43, the bill that would have avoided all this roughage by laying it out plain and simple, that “Freedom means Freedom for everybody.”

I wish you would send the right message, that Californians believe in a small and distant government that doesn’t tell us how to live our lives, instead of what Ms. Prejean represents: a selfish denial of dignity and respect.

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – Miss California Represents Hate

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

What is up with Miss California? As you know, she was on the verge of winning the Miss USA pageant last night, until she opened her mouth and revealed what was inside: somebody who seems to think that “freedom” means having her government choose who is more and less worthy of marriage.

Here was the exchange:

Celebrity Judge Perez Hilton: “Vermont recently became the 4th state to legalize same-sex marriage. Do you think every state should follow suit. Why or why not?”

Miss USA Contestant Carrie Prejean: “Well I think it’s great that Americans are able to choose one or the other. We live in a land where you can choose same-sex marriage or opposite marriage. And you know what, in my country, in my family, I think that I believe that a marriage should be between a man and a woman. No offense to anybody out there, but that’s how I was raised and that’s how I think it should be between a man and a woman. Thank you very much.”

As a Californian, it was a tremendous embarrassment to hear this representative of California say that she “thinks that she believes” that I’m not as worthy of marriage as she is. That she “was raised to believe” in apartheid. Or that she thought that Californians “were free to choose same-sex or opposite [sex] marriage” when they are so offensively not.

Governor, what kind of schools do we have here, that teach that Citizenship includes taking away people’s families, that Liberty somehow justifies oppression, and where Fellowship includes hate?

It’s getting difficult for those who crave freedom to live peacefully alongside people like Ms. Prejean, who seemingly on a whim makes all Californians seem like ignorant bigots. Please, help the kids to understand that “rights” don’t work when you deny them to others.

Sincerely,