Today’s letter – research proves same-sex marriage reduces HIV/AIDS, while intolerance causes it

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

Hugo Mialon and Andrew Francis, Two researchers from Emory University in Atlanta, Georgia, used thirty years of data to tie rates of HIV/AIDS infection to attitudes of tolerance towards lesbian and gay Americans.

They found that “a rise in tolerance from the 1970s to the 1990s reduced HIV/AIDS cases by one per 100,000 people, and that laws against same-sex marriage boosted cases by 4 per 100,000.”

“Intolerance is deadly,” they concluded. “Bans on gay marriage [cause] more gay people to shift to sexual behaviors that carry more risk.”

If you were truly interested in reducing the number of HIV/AIDS cases, you would support traditional marriage for everybody, gay and straight. I wish you would help educate Californians about the facts surrounding marriage. Hate is taught, but so is fairness, compassion and freedom.

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – Dick Cheny is right about freedom, but wrong about having the states meter it out

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

Your Republican friend Dick Cheney said during an appearance at the National Press Club that “people ought to be free to enter into any kind of union they wish, any kind of arrangement they wish.”

He also said he does not support federal action allowing gay marriages. “Historically the way marriage has been regulated is at the state level,” Cheney said. “It has always been a state issue and I think that is the way it ought to be handled, on a state-by-state basis.”

Governor, I wish you would take Mr. Cheney’s comments one step further to their obvious conclusion: marriage should not be regulated on the federal level, OR on the state level. It should be at the individual level.

The only people who should be able to decide if they should get married are the people who are involved. Individual choices of adults are not the business of the government, whether it is federal, state or local.

Anything less than that equal freedom for everybody is a violation of what it means to be American, Christian and Republican.

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – it’s gay pride month again

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

It’s old news now, but June is once again Gay Pride month by proclamation of the President of the United States.

I’m tired of having the civil liberties and human dignity of my fellow Americans ebb and flow with the different political parties that happen to be in office at any particular time. I’m tired of having to wait for old Republicans to die off so human rights legislation can advance. I’m tired of being limited to just one political party because the other political party engages in morally reprehensible attacks on its fellow citizens.

Governor, I wish you would apologize for vetoing AB 43, the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Protection Act that would have legalized gay marriage through the legislature, like New Hampshire just did. I wish you would speak out against Opponents of Equality and their agenda of apartheid against the citizens of our state. I wish you would make the GOP get rid of Michael Steele and Rush Limbaugh so Republicans can once again represent America’s promise of freedom and dignity, instead of some warped version of theocracy.

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – same-sex marriage is the only proven way to get more people to marry and fewer people to divorce

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

Let’s protect marriage together.

Denmark legalized same-sex marriage in 1989. In ten years the marriage rate increased 10.7% and the divorce rate dropped 14%. In Norway, marriage up 12.8% and divorce went down 6%. In Sweden, marriage went up an astonishing 28.7% while divorce dropped 14%.

marriage statistics over ten years
since legalization of same-sex marriage
Denmark Norway Sweden
Ten-year change in marriage rate up 10.7% up 12.8% up 28.7%
Ten-year change in divorce rate down 14% down 6% down 14%

Anybody who says that same-sex marriage threatens heterosexual marriages is lying.

I wish you would help educate Californians about the facts surrounding marriage. Hate is taught, but so is fairness, compassion and freedom.

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – Dr. James Dobson is a liar, and sends hate mail to California addresses

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

Dr. James Dobson’s latest campaign is titled “Dr. James Dobson offers encouragement to parents of teens.”

This is a lie.

Dr. James Dobson offers only a promise to parents that their children will be brutalized to suicide if they are perceived to be gay, and to gay parents that both they and their children are “deviant” and the cause of every American woe, from Hurricane Katrina to 9/11.

Dr. Dobson claims that heterosexual marriage rates have dropped in countries that allow same-sex couples to marry, and this is destroying civilization. In fact, Denmark’s marriage rate has increased 10.7% ten years after same-sex marriage became legal, 12.7% in Norway, 28.7% in Sweden. Over the same time, divorce dropped 14% in Denmark, 6% in Norway and 14% in Sweden. Dr. Dobson is a liar.

Dr. Dobson’s “Focus on the Family” ministry lies, and spreads those lies with hate mail that comes into my mailbox. If Focus on the Family were a company, they would be held accountable for the suicides they cause and the families that they destroy. If Focus on the Family were a company, they would be punished by our Attorney General for openly lying about the product they are selling.

Today’s mailing was selling magazines for teenagers that spread Dr. Dobson’s lies and hate. The harm they cause is undeniable. Hate is taught, and Dr. Dobson is teaching it.

Governor, I wish you would ask your Attorney General to investigate this organization and see if there is a way to get them to stop sending deceptive advertising to California’s mailboxes.

Thank you,

Today’s letter – what if we had to register our religion?

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

If we had a government registry for religion, what would it look like?

It would obviously require people to be a certain age, and only register once. Would it require a race, a gender, or a certain belief? Obviously not. Would it only have a few checkboxes? That would be silly. Not even our voter registration forms restrict choice or demand a specific affiliation.

The state does run a registry for marriage. Would you lease explain why same-sex domestic partners are prevented from participating in that registry?

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – Pentecost is the celebration of one great church, and any real church welcomes all people

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

Yesterday was Pentecost, the fiftieth and last day of Easter in our church. It celebrates the descent of the Holy Ghost upon the Apostles (one or more of whom was statistically likely to be gay.) “The people were amazed because each Apostle spoke in the native language of each of them.” Thus formed the “one church” doctrine summed up in Galatians 3:1 “…there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus.”

Those who say that gay people are less worthy of marriage than straight people because of something in their Bible are committing the holy sin of dividing God’s family, as well as the most heinous of secular sins, using their own faith to deny freedom to others.

When these people come to you, Governor, asking you to support their agenda of bigotry and hatred, you are not obliged to treat them with the dignity or respect of a meeting, because they have deliberately and relentlessly denied those things to their neighbors.

Governor, I wish you would apologize for vetoing AB 43, the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Protection Act that would have legalized gay marriage through the legislature. I wish you would speak out against those Opponents of Equality and their agenda of apartheid. I wish you would make the GOP get rid of Michael Steele so Republicans can be electable again.

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – outing people isn’t nice, yet our government does it all the time

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

A new documentary about closeted gay politicians put the issue of “outing” on the front burner. The LA Times’ James Rainey accelerated this by talking about his 1993 outing of City Council Candidate Jackie Goldberg against the desire of her then-partner and then 8-year-old son.

Journalists generally follow a protocol of not revealing somebody’s sexual orientation without their explicit permission, since outing somebody is just too potentially damaging to them and their families.

It is nice that journalists respect this privacy, but why doesn’t our government? As long as we have two – or three – different legal statuses describing relationships in this state, it is impossible for me to be “in the closet.” My car license outs me. Filing taxes outs me. My kids’ vaccination forms out me. As long as our State forms use the terms “married” and “domestic partner” – or “husband/wife” as on EDD forms DE1 (Registration Form for Commercial Employers) and DE1-HW (Registration Form for Employers of Household Workers) STILL do – I am automatically outed whenever I fill out a government form.

The only solution is to have one set of laws describing relationships in this state. I don’t care if it is “married” or “domestic partners” but a house divided cannot stand.

Governor, I wish you would apologize for vetoing AB 43, the Religious Freedom and Civil Marriage Protection Act that would have legalized gay marriage through the legislature. I wish you would stand with fair-minded Californians against the government meddling in personal decisions. I wish you would make the GOP get rid of Michael Steele so Republicans can be electable again.

Sincerely,

Today’s letter – the only fair and legal thing to do is to stop all marriages, and do to yourself what you would do to others

Dear Governor Schwarzenegger –

What should we do in the aftermath of the Supreme Court ruling on Prop 8?

You may recall that this amendment to our Constitution says that same-sex couples cannot get married in California. It does not say heterosexual couples cannot get domestic partnered in California.

The Constitution says that all people must be subject to the same laws. I think there is only one fair way to handle this: stop all marriages in California. Existing marriages will be converted to Domestic Partnerships for same-sex and opposite couples alike.

Then instead of having three laws for people, we will only have one. Government will be smaller and save money. Michael Steele will not have to worry about small businesses spending money on benefits to married people. Randy Thomasson would not have to worry about churches performing marriages.

If you really believed in equality and freedom, you would stop inequality and apartheid.

Sincerely,